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The Essentials of Same-Sex Relationships
Much of what is considered to be lesbian sex resembles what heterosexuals consider to be foreplay because intercourse between two women isn’t possible. Lesbian sexual activities include touching, kissing, licking, and sucking over the entire body.
Orgasm is certainly a goal of lesbian sex, but many members of the lesbian community believe that all sex play is valid and that the goal should be pleasure, whether that leads to orgasm or not. Sex between two women can consist of:
Breast/nipple play. Breasts are especially strong erogenous zones for both gay and straight women. In a lesbian couple, breasts usually compose a central part of sexual activity, including the rubbing of both sets of breasts up against each other as well as much nipple play.
Body-to-body rubbing is another important method of sexual activity. When two women lay face-to-face, one on top of the other, pressing their genitals together and grinding them one against the other, this is called tribadism. One reason that lesbians use this technique is that it allows the hands and mouth to be free to stimulate other parts of the body.
Clitoral stimulation. Because the clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman and, through its stimulation, she achieves orgasm, it plays a central role in lesbian sexual activity. Most lesbians enjoy touching and rubbing the clitoris, as well as the entire genital area, using fingers and sometimes vibrators.
Oral sex. The use of the 69 position, during which both partners can perform cunnilingus on each other at the same time, is common to some lesbians. Others avoid it, however, because they find that simultaneous sex is too distracting. Those women prefer to take turns.
Vaginal penetration by a partner’s finger or tongue is common, as is the insertion of foreign objects. Some lesbians use dildos to replace the sensations that accompany having sex with a man. But, because many dildos are shaped like a penis, some controversy exists in the lesbian community as to their use. Many lesbians reject dildos because they are male-defined, which clashes with the strong political beliefs of some lesbians.
Other lesbian sexual practices include stimulation of the anus, including rimming (moving the tongue around the edge of the anus) and penetration of the anus with a finger or dildo.
Although the incidences of AIDS transmission between lesbians are very low, it’s not impossible for it to happen. (Most women who get AIDS do so either through heterosexual sex or sharing needles.) And, of course, women can transfer many other STDs to each other, so lesbians must be concerned with safer sex practices as well.
Whether you want to know for yourself or a family member or friend who has just come out, knowing what lesbian sex consists of can lead you to a better understanding of being a gay female. And always remember that in a gay relationship, the feelings of love and caring can be as strong as in any heterosexual relationship.
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